Love Languages
I think most of us are aware of the five ways we express and receive love. (giving gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service and quality time) And we probably have already figured out what ways mean the most to us and our husbands and try to apply them.
However, I've noticed that as my children grow and their personalities begin to emerge that they have distinct ideas of love as well. Katrina loves to touch and be touched, needs words of affirmation and thrives on quality time. Shiona seems to be more enigmatic. She seems to be very selective about who, how and when she touches or receives touch, doesn't seem to care for quality time as much and doesn't seem too concerned with words of either praise or correction. She does enjoy and get excited with gifts, but I wouldn't call that her main way of receiving love. She is a puzzler! However, my goal is to know each child individually and understand what makes them feel loved so I have each of my child's hearts. Michael, of course, right now needs much physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation, but I am trying to figure out, even now, what he craves more than the others.
I know usually we need a combination of languages to feel loved and that our ways of expressing and needing aren't always the same for each individual. (Seth loves giving gifts, but could care less if he received any at all!) Anyway, I think we need to be observing and trying to figure out our children's love languages in order to better show our love to them and understand their way of giving.
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